As a part of the family, I bring to the table my own ideas, values, etc. One of the most important issues to me is my relationship with Israel. I am a Jew…the Land of Israel is my homeland. I learned this at a very early age, even though I had never been to Israel. As a kid, I supported Israel blindly because it is what I thought I was supposed to do. As I have aged, my thoughts regarding Israel have changed. I have been frustrated by Israel at times…I certainly have not agreed with every experience I have had with Israel. However, one thing that has never changed is my deep loving relationship with Israel and my desire for Israel to continue to be a place for the Jews – a homeland.
In December, 1999, I journeyed for the first time to Israel. I was a staff member for a Birthright Israel trip. Having led several trips since 1999, I can tell you they do not let 1st timers lead these trips anymore for obvious reasons! I was so enamored with Israel during that short 12 day trip. When we returned to the States, I quit my job and immediately moved back to Israel to work as a Madrich (counselor) for a High School in Israel program. It was during that 4 month period in which my love for and relationship with Israel really began to mold into what it is today.
Although I yearned to return to Israel, life happened and my next return trip to Israel was for my first year in Rabbinic School, summer of 2007. This trip was different – I was moving to Jerusalem with my wife and daughter…and we would live in Jerusalem for a year. As a quasi citizen of Israel, we had to learn how to pay bills, shop for groceries and everything else that one does in their daily life (many of which we take for granted)! The major difference was that we were learning Hebrew and companies’ “customer service reps” really do not like talking to non-native Hebrew speakers!
Shortly after we arrived in Jerusalem, I heard about a program called Encounter. Encounter is an organization with the following mission: Dedi¬cated to strength¬ening the capacity of the Jewish people to be construc¬tive agents of change in trans¬forming the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. I really did not know anything about Encounter, but one of my closest friends (Rabbi David Spinrad of The Temple Downtown) convinced me to look into it. What I found was a group of rabbinic students from all of the streams of Judaism who were interested in learning together about the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. These willing participants had the same philosophy – peace was possible and we had to learn about each other to attain this peace.
After a few orientation meetings in which we learned about effective listening, we were given time to reflect with our fellow students of our fears, pre-conceived notions, etc. The next part of the experience was the one that at first gave me the most fear – we would be venturing into Bethlehem and spending the night. We were given the choice of either staying at a hotel or with a Palestinian family. Well, David convinced me to stay with him at the home of a Palestinian Christian family. This was one of the best decisions I made that year as I learned so much from this family!
During the second day of our stay in Bethlehem, we met with a prominent member of the Fatah party of the Palestinian Authority. I was prepared to hear him speak negatively about the Israelis. I was prepared to hear him tell all of these future leaders of the Jewish community how terrible life was for the Palestinian people and how Israel was responsible for it. I was ready to hear a tremendous amount of negativity about Jews and Judaism. What I did hear, however, was a man who spoke about peace efforts and about his desire to live side by side with the Israelis in harmony. To say I was confused would have been an understatement!
When we returned back to our homes on the other side of the wall, I was immediately in a state of deep thought. I wrote several blogs and articles about my feelings and confusion. A few days after I returned, I was speaking with one of my neighbors about the challenges of living in the Middle East. This neighbor spoke about his time in the army and all of the terrorists he had killed. When I remarked I had spent a night in Bethlehem, he literally spit on the ground in front of me and threw me out of his apartment. To say I was confused then would have been an even larger understatement.
Here is the question I faced: How should I respond to my neighbor? I had another 6 months of living in the apartment building and I knew that eventually I needed to face him. When I sat down to think about it, I came up with 3 possible solutions:
1) I could approach him in anger and frustration explaining to him the other side of the picture. I could try to relate to him the stories of those with whom I had come in contact while in Bethlehem.
2) I could ignore him and hope that he eventually calmed down and we could return to whatever relationship we had prior to the argument.
3) I could allow him to cool down and then try to have a conversation with him regarding his anger…really listening to what he has to say and attempt to understand his plight just as I had listened to the Palestinians I encountered in Bethlehem.
Think for a moment how you would have responded. Before I tell you how I reacted to my neighbor, let me ask just a couple of simple questions. Which of the above solutions is most supportive of Israel? Which solution makes you seem more like a Zionist and which solution makes you seem like less of a Zionist? (***PAUSE***)
Continue to think about these questions as I read a few quotes:
“The relationship of the Jewish people to the land of Israel is itself living history. Just as ardent love between human beings can be real and powerful even though they don’t dwell together on one spot in space, the love of the Jewish people for the land is an ongoing, powerful being together even when living at a distance, a real link, a being at home spiritually, an embrace that never tires, a hope that never ceases.”
“While American Jews across the political spectrum can vigorously debate Israeli policies, Natan Sharansky (Chairman of the Executive of the Jewish Agency, and former K’Nesset Member) has identified three “D’s” that distinguish constructive criticism from the destructive criticism that has become the new anti-Semitism. The three “D’s” are: delegitimization, including denial of Israel’s right to exist as a Jewish state; double standards, so that Israel is accused and judged by a standard expected of no other nation; and demonization through lies and half-truths that ignore or minimize Israel’s achievements and the context for Israel’s actions.”
“Democracy in the United States means that we needn’t agree with every single action taken by President Barack Obama, or by President George W. Bush before him. Yet, when it comes to Israel, we are asked, sometimes instructed, to put aside all critical thinking and simply support any and all actions taken by the government – any government.”
“Ours was a unique light shining in antiquity. The first Jewish Commonwealth was not unlike other nation-states of the time; it knew political intrigue, it knew corruption. Yet the spirit of the consecrated people could not be broken. Rooted in the soil of the Promised Land, Israel and Judah discovered a prophetic zeal. With sublime passion the Jewish prophets challenged their strife-ridden people with demands yet unheard in the annals of man.”
The previous 4 quotes presented different views and ideas regarding what it means to support Israel. On one hand, the Jews remain connected to the Biblical Land of Israel as one is connected to a loved family member. Even when we are apart physically, we yearn for each other. For those who have never had the opportunity to visit and experience Israel up close have just as deep a connection to Israel as those who have been to Israel multiple times.
On the other hand, we should also constructively criticize Israel when needed – as long as the criticism does not hold Israel to a higher standard. Some may actually say we should hold Israel to a higher standard – that is a different sermon for a different time! Basically, when we do discuss Israel, even in disagreement, we should hold Israel as we hold our brothers and sisters – with love and support, even while we argue with Israel.
Now – back to the solution I chose: It may surprise some of you to know that I chose to ignore my neighbor. After all, he spit at me. It was not that I was angry with him (I was, though)…it was I was frustrated that he would not even have a conversation with me or possibly acknowledge the plight of the Palestinians. Several weeks passed by and finally I arrived one Friday afternoon to my apartment with a note inviting my family to his home for Shabbat dinner. I was a little unsure of what to do. Eventually, however, Batya and I decided to join his family for Shabbat dinner.
What happened at dinner was and continues to truly be one of the most amazing memories of my life. When we entered through his front door, we were met by his wife and friend. What was interesting about this friend was (as we found out later during dinner) that he was an Arab Israeli who was born in Bethlehem. His family had moved to Israel when he was 4 years old. This man still had many family members who lived in the West Bank. It was truly a wonderful dinner and the conversation was enlightening, to say the least.
Let me now tell you what happened to my neighbor that brought on this drastic change. As it turns out, my neighbor was really taken aback by my attempts at avoiding him. He and his wife had many conversations about what had happened between the two of us. So, at some point, she introduced him to the husband of her Israeli Jewish friend – this new friend we had been acquainted with at Shabbat dinner. Their story was truly amazing – this friend’s wife had actually met him while working for an Israeli/Palestinian Peace program.
They had fallen in love at first sight…and it took them almost 3 years to convince their families of their desire to be together as man and wife. Their story is rare to say the least…however, in the Middle East (especially in Israel), you can never be too sure that up is up or down is down! As a matter of fact, so many things about Israel are too hard to explain unless you have had the chance to experience it: some things as simple as the true meaning of the word “S’licha,” (loosely meaning Excuse me) and some things much more difficult – like trying to understand a point of view from anyone in Israel.
In June, 2014, the Boxts will be traveling to Israel, leading a TKE congregational trip to Israel. While we will be celebrating the B’nai Mitzvah of several of our congregants, we are truly traveling to Israel to reconnect. If you have never had the opportunity to visit Israel, please consider very strongly joining us…if you have been to Israel before, you know the importance of returning and renewing our strong connection to the people, the culture, the religion and the Land. Israel is more than just a culture and religion – it is a Land where we can all be Jews.
At the beginning of this sermon, I mentioned that we were a family here at TKE. Each of us has our own ideas, loves, passions and dislikes. However, one thing we should agree on is that Israel is vital to the continuation of the Jewish people. One look at history will remind us of the significance of having a “Jewish” homeland. We may disagree politically (even about Israel), but we must agree that Israel is vital and of immense importance for every one of us.
To quote my dear friend and colleague, Rabbi Lebow, “Israel exists in order to defend all Jews. The Jews exist in order to defend Israel.”
Dear TKE family, it is up to us to support and love Israel – the people AND the Land. Temple Kol Emeth is a vibrant, growing and loving community of people who are more than just neighbors and congregants. We are a family and families look out for each other. It is of the utmost importance that we take the amazing wonders of our congregation and extend it out to all of our brothers and sisters in Israel and everywhere in the world.
It is my hope that in this New Year, we will not only continue to work together to make our family the greatest Jewish family in Atlanta. Let us strive to welcome in many, many, many more family members in the next year. And, if you are looking for a way to connect or reconnect to Israel, please consider joining us next year as we travel to Israel. May God bless each and every soul that sits here this evening and spread God’s warmth and loving embrace outward to all of those in our world who are in need of it.